Transgender transsexual dating
I will in a future post discuss whether I think rejecting someone just because they are trans is transphobic or not — because it’s a question that deserves its own post and probably several from different perspectives. Dating while trans adds another layer or two of complications.Some other gems of immediate reactions from women I’ve told on dates include:· “Oh my gawd! I thought you were too pretty to be a regular guy.” (we did not go on any more dates. ” GQ Joe was my drag king persona before I transitioned, so yes, I was GQ Joe.· “Okay, but do you want to split a dessert or each get our own? Rejection is scary on its own but the addition of being trans makes the fear of rejection even scarier because you can’t control people’s reactions.Things are getting serious with us, and I know it’s time to tell him my secret. I don’t want you to be caught off guard when readers and social media users express anger and disappointment in you for not initially telling the man that you’ve been dating that you’re trans. Until they have been in your exact position, they have no right to judge you.It is my belief that as trans women, we should only feel obligated to disclose our transness to the men we date once we see that the relationship is going in a direction where physical intimacy could occur.I want to make sure I have a connection with the person, because if I am not going to continue seeing them, then I don’t need to sweat the anxiety over how they’ll react.The difficult part is that there really is no natural way to slip it into a conversation.Her (within 5 minutes of us meeting): What do you do for work?
No matter what anyone says, trans people deserve love.
(Let me point out how screwy it is that I think I’m lucky that I was met with relatively kind reactions.) I’m also very aware that if I were a trans woman and/or a trans person of color, my chances of being a victim of violence or harassment would increase.
There are lots of different ways to come out to dates.
In fact, according to a FORGE report, 50% of transgender people have experienced sexual violence.
And a review of research by Williams Institute reveals that 30%-50% of transgender people will experience intimate partner violence at some point in their life.
We deserve to experience all the awkward, fun, cringe-worthy, exciting, infuriating, exciting, and blog-worthy dating stories that any cisgender person experiences.