Technology ruins dating
Nothing kills romance faster than pulling out a smartphone, and now, research confirms it.Being attached to your phone seems to sabotage your attachment with your loved one.Harvard professor Craig Malkin has coined the term “cybercelibacy” to describe the increasing number of people who turn to online games and networks to satisfy their social needs without having to face scary real people.It creates a vicious cycle, he explains, where people aren’t forced to face their anxieties about relationships, which makes those anxieties grow and causes them to retreat further. Well, 28 percent of people surveyed admitted that they spend less time with meatspace friends in favor of online activities, and almost as many (20 percent) say they’re having less sex.Stalking an ex can significantly hamper our recovery from the breakup, and even spur us to make really bad decisions like hopping back into bed with them (yes, scientists actually studied this stuff).It might be best to keep them out of feed, out of mind.
Following your partner’s Facebook feed creates needless jealousy, one study says.
People who felt that their partners were overly dependent on their devices said they were less satisfied in their relationship.
In other words, people get jealous of their partner’s smartphone.
“I’m more likely to think my relationship is doomed the more I believe my partner needs that thing,” explains Matthew Lapierre, assistant professor in the department of communication at the University of Arizona, who authored the study with his former undergraduate student Meleah Lewis.
“It’s not use; it’s the psychological relationship to that device.” The researchers are now doing a followup experiment to try to understand the causal mechanisms behind their findings and to see whether or not smartphone dependency affects other areas of life, like academic performance, and whether factors like self-esteem predict a person’s smartphone obsession.
Technology has completely changed how we live our lives, and it’s happening at an ever-increasing rate.