Racism in interracial dating
Here are some of my favorite: If you want your blog or website added to this site, just leave a comment and I will add you :) Change is fun, but every day is a struggle.There is no way to coast in an interracial relationship. Some of the time it is simple trade-offs like “I will wipe me feet off before getting into bed if you don’t do laundry every day.” Or “I will shower in the evening if you will buy beer instead of sake.” Other times it is complicated things you don’t know how to compromise on.However, hundreds of other countries and nationalities are also represented.Now I want to share my own story – regarding the good, the bad, and the ugly of an AMWF relationship. The term “AMWF” has only popped up in the last couple years.And it is a little bit scary trying to live day by day. The hardest part of an intercultural relationship is deciding when to compromise, when to fight, and when to draw the line. What are you supposed to do if your partner is completely opposed to your religion?Sure, this week I think it is a bit silly (but adorable) that Ryosuke makes me wipe my feet off with wet wipes before climbing into bed (even if I have been wearing slippers all day). He likes the fact I am ambitious and want to have a solid career, but what about in five years, when his family is pressuring me to quit my job to have (and take care of) kids? What if he thinks you should quit your job after marriage to become a housewife?It was heartbreaking to watch my friend’s intercultural relationship fall apart (and even harder to not pick a side).I wondered where it went wrong – but the answer was pretty obvious to everyone involved.
I’ve been with my husband for almost three years; we are finding things we need to compromise on. But there is a understanding no matter how much we study each other’s languages, we will never be an integral part of each other’s families.
Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world.
The only comparable feeling is probably when I won tickets to see a live taping of Stephen Colbert, discovered chocolate soy milk (milk allergy), or, like, my future kid gets married.
Love is not enough to keep a relationship going, it is definitely not enough to conquer all problems, but it certainly helps. [For more, check out: Things I love about Japan: Couple Wear] Intercultural dating is a lot of things. Two years later, and I never know what to expect on dates. But I really fell in love with the culture once I started dating Ryosuke. He was the one who helped me understand the types of sexism in Japan (for more, check out this post) But living with him, his family, and his friends, I have been given the enormously unique opportunity of doing participant observation of the Japanese culture.
A romantic walk on the beach is never just a romantic walk on the beach. And, well, I started this blog to document what I found.
However, most of it is defined by the fact that I am white and he is Asian.