Graduate student and professor dating
CONSENSUAL SEXUAL RELATIONS BETWEEN FACULTY AND STUDENTS The relationship between faculty and student is central to the academic mission of the University.No non-academic or personal ties should be allowed to interfere with the integrity of the faculty-student relationship. For purposes of this policy, “faculty” includes (but is not limited to) standing faculty, clinical faculty, associated faculty, and academic support staff, as well as clinical or lab supervisors, postdoctoral fellows, house staff, residents, graduate and undergraduate teaching assistants, and any other person providing instruction, academic advising, or academic oversight of an enrolled student in any school, course, or program, including summer and off-campus programs, irrespective of geographical location. “Academic responsibility” includes (but is not limited to) teaching, grading, mentoring, advising, or evaluating research or other academic activity, participating in decisions regarding funding or other resources, clinical supervision, and recommending for admissions, employment, fellowships, or awards.“He was an interesting guy with a lot of the same beliefs and values that I had,” she says.“He was also a bit older and his maturity was really refreshing (since in high school I was in a relationship with a guy who was going nowhere and was so immature).” Avery started wearing V-neck shirts and makeup (which she never wore normally) to attract her TA’s attention.
But these relationships are also banned at most schools, which makes them dangerous… Could a student/TA or student/professor relationship ever work out?
Okay, we know that equating a chem professor with Edward Cullen could be a bit of a stretch, but just think of Twilight—part of the reason why the story is so fascinating to readers is because of the forbidden nature of their relationship.
“There can be an allure of feeling special from engaging in a forbidden relationship,” Orlov says.
Although Avery and her TA’s relationship never developed into anything physical or seriously emotional, what if it had?
Student/professor affairs are nothing new; Martin Heidegger and John Nash (the subject of A Beautiful Mind) both had infamous relationships with students.
“Young women naturally seek affirmation from those with more experience and power from others who appear to have more,” says Julie Orlov, a psychotherapist and the author of The Pathway to Love.